tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post115454173521909795..comments2013-12-31T08:55:46.619-05:00Comments on Pamela Tyner, Contemporary Romance Author: Top Ten Female Fantasies--Contest/Drawing!Pamela Tynerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05048817764278290443noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156388108144420642006-08-23T22:55:00.000-04:002006-08-23T22:55:00.000-04:00You got fifty comments? WowYou got fifty comments? WowJohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12489139590094350902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156193489343750502006-08-21T16:51:00.000-04:002006-08-21T16:51:00.000-04:00Thanks everyone for participating. I really apprec...Thanks everyone for participating. I really appreciate it. I loved hearing your thoughts on this subject. Thanks again!Pamela Tynerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05048817764278290443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156102893002123282006-08-20T15:41:00.000-04:002006-08-20T15:41:00.000-04:00Why would someone want forced sex. I am sorry but ...Why would someone want forced sex. I am sorry but I couldn't relate to that. I think sex is something that both partners should want to share and that it would be enjoyable to both.Lorettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14105513617981591418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156030924671595932006-08-19T19:42:00.000-04:002006-08-19T19:42:00.000-04:00Oops, I was half asleep this morning when I wrote ...Oops, I was half asleep this morning when I wrote my post. It wasn't a Suzanne Brockmann novel I was talking about, it was Susan Elizabeth Phillips (both fantastic authors!)Emma Sandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03059058685469388321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156030853547136252006-08-19T19:40:00.000-04:002006-08-19T19:40:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Emma Sandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03059058685469388321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156027293535644262006-08-19T18:41:00.000-04:002006-08-19T18:41:00.000-04:00I also wonder how they got the 'list'--whom did th...I also wonder how they got the 'list'--whom did they poll, women, or men thinking they know what women want:) LOL Anyways, not too surprising...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1156001639920519382006-08-19T11:33:00.000-04:002006-08-19T11:33:00.000-04:00After reading the list, I can say that several are...After reading the list, I can say that several are very intriguing "fantasies", but as you said to any men reading, yes, they often remain just fantasies. Some things that turn us on are just for stimulation....if faced with the reality, it would be "Too Much" for some (but not all). *grin*<BR/>Thanks for the list and the comments! <BR/><BR/>And, I would love to be entered in your drawing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155992489350881092006-08-19T09:01:00.000-04:002006-08-19T09:01:00.000-04:00LOL, Lucinda, that sounds about right. If anythin...LOL, Lucinda, that sounds about right. If anything, the forced sex would have to be a play forced, you know what I mean? Anyone ever read that Suzanne Brockmann novel, I can't remember which one? It had a fantastic "forced sex" scene that was a set-up between the man and the woman.<BR/><BR/>I guess that's why it's called fantasy. Things we wouldn't actually do.Emma Sandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03059058685469388321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155987728292486532006-08-19T07:42:00.000-04:002006-08-19T07:42:00.000-04:00Actually, I think that this list is what men fanta...Actually, I think that this list is what men fantasize that women fantasize about, because it sounded like things that turn THEM on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155952972147746302006-08-18T22:02:00.000-04:002006-08-18T22:02:00.000-04:00All sound fairly accurate to me, but my fantasies ...All sound fairly accurate to me, but my fantasies depend on my mood.<BR/><BR/>That being asid, some of my fantasies, I would <I>never</I> act out IRL. For me, "forced sex" goes a bit beyond "forced" but it's not something I would ever want to experience in reality, even though the thought is at times a turn-on.Nonny Blackthornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02921408573581637909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155951837596165672006-08-18T21:43:00.000-04:002006-08-18T21:43:00.000-04:00some of these I could fantasize about some definit...some of these I could fantasize about some definitely not lolPamkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02880471140530575964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155683928764949322006-08-15T19:18:00.000-04:002006-08-15T19:18:00.000-04:00Pamela,Thanks for sharing this list. # 2 surprised...Pamela,<BR/>Thanks for sharing this list. # 2 surprised me a lot, but I guess to each her own. I'm kind of partial to #8 myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1155408050590556292006-08-12T14:40:00.000-04:002006-08-12T14:40:00.000-04:00#3 and #1 are my favs! Love the pink!!!#3 and #1 are my favs! <BR/><BR/>Love the pink!!!Dana Pollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03712232388916152244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154913254358752862006-08-06T21:14:00.000-04:002006-08-06T21:14:00.000-04:00Getting paid surprised me a little. And the strap...Getting paid surprised me a little. And the strap on. It's neat reading them though.<BR/><BR/>LanyMelanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12825931265535713434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154910885689516152006-08-06T20:34:00.000-04:002006-08-06T20:34:00.000-04:00No. 2: Euw! NEVER occurred to me!No. 2: Euw! NEVER occurred to me!Randyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01472972660086103611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154884891941215512006-08-06T13:21:00.000-04:002006-08-06T13:21:00.000-04:00The idea of using a strap-on doesn't do much for m...The idea of using a strap-on doesn't do much for me. But the idea of experiencing sex as a man is intriguing. It's one thing to know "my last boyfriend liked X." I'd like to know "this is what X feels like."Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10142090423235200822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154790296979975872006-08-05T11:04:00.000-04:002006-08-05T11:04:00.000-04:00Heaven help me, but yes, I've had many of these fa...Heaven help me, but yes, I've had many of these fantasies. Sex with a stranger tops my list, though that stranger would definitely have to be Bono. Not so strange, after all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154769306570503972006-08-05T05:15:00.000-04:002006-08-05T05:15:00.000-04:00Wow, guys. Your comments have been great. Thanks...Wow, guys. Your comments have been great. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!<BR/><BR/>Linda said: I find it interesting that women's fantasies appeared on an AskMen site.<BR/><BR/>But it’s wonderful that men are being educated on this issue (and just to point out, the article was written by a woman). I read somewhere that less than a third of US men know their partner’s sexual fantasies. IF that’s true, then you have to wonder why. Are the men just not asking, or are the women not sharing...maybe due to fear of criticism or being labeled 'slutty'?<BR/><BR/>Joye said: tell me why sensual is different from erotic<BR/><BR/>I consider my first book to be more sensual than erotic because the sex scenes aren’t as graphic as what you’d expect in an erotic romance and there aren't as many of them. That’s not to say that the sex isn’t hot :) but it’s not what I’d consider erotica.Pamela Tynerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05048817764278290443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154757620515424792006-08-05T02:00:00.000-04:002006-08-05T02:00:00.000-04:00Interesting list! I was only surprised by two of ...Interesting list! I was only surprised by two of them - the woman wants to be in the male role, and getting paid. The force thing is easy for me to relate to. I think of it this way - everything in my daily life is in either my control or outside control - from my work to my schedule to my kids' and DH's needs, etc. It would be lovely to have pleasure forced upon me - to just take what someone is giving me and give over any control I have. To not have to make any friggin' decisions (LOL) and know that I had to go along with what was happening. Of course, that being said, this would have to be with someone I trusted implicitly. :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06449985580539578496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154725708122432642006-08-04T17:08:00.000-04:002006-08-04T17:08:00.000-04:00Not too surprised about the list. That's a man's ...Not too surprised about the list. That's a man's trouble-they FANTASIZE Also, tell me why sensual is different from erotic Can't they be one and the same?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154721757968704992006-08-04T16:02:00.000-04:002006-08-04T16:02:00.000-04:002 surprised me as well. Almost as much as 4.2 surprised me as well. Almost as much as 4.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154713376513130402006-08-04T13:42:00.000-04:002006-08-04T13:42:00.000-04:00I'm surprised none of them include celebrities... ...I'm surprised none of them include celebrities... <BR/><BR/>Good to see you blogging, btw!Madison Chasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16897478048808821560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154638514981935242006-08-03T16:55:00.000-04:002006-08-03T16:55:00.000-04:00Number two and number eight kind of go along toget...Number two and number eight kind of go along together. I was much more interested in the other parts of the list. I was surprised there wasn't more romance on the list.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154627378413722462006-08-03T13:49:00.000-04:002006-08-03T13:49:00.000-04:00Very revealing. Not necessarily the order I'd have...Very revealing. Not necessarily the order I'd have THOUGHT, but I pretty much imagined those as the top fantasies, yeah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31582100.post-1154622445775654722006-08-03T12:27:00.001-04:002006-08-03T12:27:00.001-04:006. Being sexually ravaged/being controlled/having ...6. Being sexually ravaged/being controlled/having a master/being submissive<BR/>3. Sex with two men<BR/>1. Forced sex<BR/><BR/>Out of that list, there are only 3 I can apply to myself, and even then with some restrictions. Number 6, being ravaged/controlled, would need some serious ground rules spelled out beforehand. But even at a mild level, I do prefer the man to be in control. I find that I am able to be freer and let give free reign to passion without worry over those 'morals' I was raised with when the man takes control. <BR/><BR/>Number 3, I'm not really sure I could go through with this, but it is definitely intriguing enough that it enters my fantasies regularly. And I find Romantica/Erotica books that include this theme most interesting... But to actually do it? I don't know. I suppose if the situation were right, maybe. But that is a very big maybe.<BR/><BR/>Number 1 is another I'd apply a serious caveat to. When I think of forced sex, I am really thinking more of seduction - to be with a man who knows that I really want him, and forces me to face that. A little 'manhandling', without violence is hot - such as some mild spanking, being tied up, blindfolded. Degradation and violence are not hot, however, at least not to me.Jennifer A. Rayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04820461287962714222noreply@blogger.com